You will by the end of the 10-week course have started to build a strong and potentially lifelong support network for parenting.

• You’ll know how to help your child when their behaviour goes off track and how to prevent them getting to that point so often.
• You’ll discover how to set effective, respectful limits and know when limits are needed or not.
• You’ll start to develop your resourcefulness and ability to divert situations playfully.
• You can rediscover how to play and have fun with your child and feel like a good parent.
• Overall, you’ll gain confidence in your parenting and a clear idea of how to navigate most situations.

This approach can be applied across the board for any ages and will improve:

• difficult or defiant behaviour
• sibling relationships
• sleep
• picky eating
• challenges with separation
• aggression
• conflicts about getting dressed or chores or whatever

It will improve your child’s capacity to take bold steps in the world and access their intelligence.

These are trauma-informed, therapeutic parenting tools.

If you watch my story in the video at the top of this page, you’ll see I’ve turned my own family around from a pretty extreme place.

I would go so far as to say this might be the most likely thing to actually make a difference!

The Total Parenting Reboot course runs from Friday 7th October to 9th December 2022. Please book your diary from 9.15-11.30am (UK time, GMT) on Friday mornings for 10 weeks.

We meet on Zoom for the Huddle from 9.15-10.15am UK time (that's the whole group).

Then we peel off into our Parent Pods of 6 plus the facilitator from 10.30-11.30am - so there's time for a cup of tea in between.

If you're joining from a timezone outside the UK, you'll need to know that our time zone is GMT. The meeting times are local time in UK. 

Check your local time here

We meet weekly as a whole group for the Huddle on a 60 minute live Zoom call. This is recorded so you can watch again on replay to scoop up any gems you missed in the moment.

After the Huddle there's a 15 minute break to make a cup of tea - and then you'll meet in your small group Parent Pod on Zoom for 60 minutes.

So that's 2 1/4 hours on the live call each week.

Plus there are video tutorials from Hand in Hand founder Patty Wipfler to watch each week, lasting between 60 – 85 minutes.

Ideally you will also be able to schedule time to practice the tools we teach each week. There is also reading material if you have time. Please allow 30-60 minutes for this homework.

BUT if you’re pressed for time, this approach will work:

If you can only find 1 hour off work or parenting during daytime hours, we suggest you prioritise attending the Parent Pod on Thursdays from 8.45 - 9.45pm. The Pod is only available live (it's so worth it, it will be like an oasis in your week). You can watch the Huddle with Q&A on the replay.

And if you can spare half an hour during the week to engage with the material and try things out, that’s enough. 

There's an app to watch the videos, or you can watch in a browser.

You have lifetime access to the videos to go over the content in more depth.

It is highly recommended for the best learning experience to attend both parts of the live call each week (the Huddle and Parent Pod).

And we know life happens and sometimes it's unavoidable to miss a call.

The Huddle segment is recorded and you can catch up on the replay. It will be posted within 24 hours in the learning portal.

The Parent Pod part is NOT recorded, nor is it possible to pop into another Pod just for a week.  Your Pod is your safe circle of 6 parents plus the facilitator - you'll meet each week and the bond deepens. You'll soon be looking forward to this oasis of listening each week.

If your diary is packed on a regular basis and you can only find 1 hour off work / parenting on the day, we suggest you prioritise attending the Parent Pod. Then catch up with the Huddle on replay.

Your Parent Pod is a safe circle of 6 parents plus the facilitator. You'll meet each week and take turns to receive kind listening attention. The bond in your group will deepen and you'll soon be looking forward to this oasis of support each week.

Your small group will meet for a live call on Zoom for an hour each week after the Huddle.

To support you in feeling safe to share and go as deep as you feel to, the Parent Pod calls are NOT recorded. If you have to miss a week with your Pod, sorry, it won't be possible to pop into another Pod just for that week. That also means you can feel secure in the knowledge that no-one will be randomly joining your Pod.

If you can only find 1 hour off work or parenting on the day of the call, we suggest you prioritise attending the Parent Pod section. Then catch up with the Huddle on replay.

If you book on the course as a couple, it is usually recommended to join separate Pods.

There will be a Pod run by a Dad for all the Dads to join. If we have registrations from 6 men this will be a dedicated Dad Pod, otherwise it will be a mixed Pod.

The Couple price is available to 2 parents of the same child/children (maybe you're a couple or co-parents). It is also available to 2 adults in the same household (maybe one of you is the parent and the other is in a parental role). 

Whatever your individual constellation, you'll know that it's best for your kids if as (co-)parents you are 'singing from the same hymn sheet'.

When entering into a process of transformation and calling in a new paradigm (such as this course), it's natural to want to bring your partner along with you. However, they usually don't want to hear 'the new way' from YOU. There can be a resistance to being 'taught' by you.

Invite your partner on board to join you on the Total Parenting Reboot. If they jump on, great. If they don't jump on, great. Perhaps it's not their time or their thing - but please don't waste energy trying to persuade them. Witnessing your transformation through participating will have the most powerful impact.

If your partner or co-parent is a full YES! then joining the course as a couple will give you each full access to the course.

You will each be able to attend the weekly Huddle and ask your own questions. You will each join a Parent Pod and receive valuable support through listening time from loving ears. 

But, if between you, you don't have time, space or finances to both attend live, you can book for 1 person and share the materials (you just won't both get the live interaction to ask your questions directly, and only one of you will receive the invaluably nourishing support of the Parent Pod).

Sometimes your partner doesn't have the capacity to listen to your parenting woes or gets triggered because they share the exact same woes. It can be enormously validating to be witnessed and held by a compassionate group (such as the Parent Pod) on the same wavelength. 

This course is tremendously valuable whether one or both of you attend. We are confident it will have positive repercussions on your family whichever way works for you.

This approach will give you a way of being that enhances every relationship in your life. It’s hard to imagine what more connection, fun and ease can look like before you’ve experienced it.

We take for granted that parenting involves struggle and that we need to do it by ourselves and yet here is a way to make life easier, more connected, more supported, more joyful and PLAYFUL!

We have 2 tiers of pricing for the course and invite you to self-select. There's the Comfortable price of £750, or the Low Income price of £480. 

To help you assess which price to pay, we encourage you to take both income and wealth into consideration. One’s wealth status is the most important when determining which price to select.

Income is what you make (usually monthly) from a job, disability, social security, etc. Wealth is the personal property (homes, cars) + savings + income generating assets (property, investments) minus liabilities (debts, loans) within your network and/or family. Additionally, we encourage you to take your relative privilege and/or marginalization into account when choosing your rate. The questionnaire below is inspired by Resource Generation’s “Class Privilege Quiz”.

Ask yourself…

1. Are you and your family homeowners or landowners? (If you are then you are doing better than Roma :-) )
2. Do you have any savings or assets?
3. Have you attended private education or do you have a degree? Are you able to earn well?
4. Are your bills or credit cards paid by direct debit?
5. Are you NOT in receipt of Housing Benefit or other government benefits?
6. Do you have zero to no debt and/or do you have disposable income?
7. Do you have a safety net composed of ‘financially stable’ or wealthy family and friends?
8. Are you legally allowed to work in the country you live in?
9. Do you have autonomy over your own finances?

Then count up your answers.

If your answers were…

All / Mostly Yes
You might want to consider our
PAY IT FORWARD RATE: £750 + make a donation to the Pay It Forward fund
Our Pay It Forward rate means ‘paying your fair share’ by those people who have had structural advantage and access to wealth. Your donation will be supporting parents who are under significant hardship to access this course.

Mostly Yes, Some No
Please opt for our
COMFORTABLE RATE: £750
Our full rate represents the ‘true cost’ at which we would break even after paying our expenses. At this rate, we can fully pay our facilitators and overheads. This course can break the mould of your parenting programming, and the benefits will reach far and wide, way beyond your immediate family and the 10-week time scale of the course. It’s hard to put a value on that.

Some Yes, Some No
We invite you to take advantage of our
LOW INCOME RATE: £480
This lower rate is for those who are finding it hard to get by, either due to income or employment lost due to the pandemic or because of various oppressions. We consider this course to be a significant investment in the wellbeing and functionality of your whole family and want to make it accessible to everyone.

Mostly No
Please apply for our
BURSARY RATE: £300
Our Bursary rate is for parents who are surviving. We know this course can be a lifeline when nothing else has worked and we want you to have this advantage if we can make it work. Unfortunately we can only offer a limited number of these places to those most committed and most in need. Please complete the application form here by 23 September. (There is no guarantee of a place.)

We offer tiered pricing for Comfortable or Low Income. Please read the 'How does the pricing work?' answer above before you read on.

Payment in 3 monthly instalments is available for bookings made by 31st August. There is also the option to start paying in instalments now for the next intake of this course towards the end of the year.

We offer a limited number of Bursary Places for this course. If you know this course is for you and the tiered prices are a barrier, please apply for one of the Bursary places. We can't promise anything but will see what we can do. Our mission is to support parents like you. Please don't feel embarrassed to apply.

The Bursary places are intended for those in genuine need. In the ideal world, the Bursary places are funded by donations to our Pay-It-Forward fund from other parents in the community, usually who have benefited from this work. However, these funds aren't always forthcoming, which means that my team and I don't get paid fully for our work. 

If you cannot afford either of the prices and wish to apply for one of the Bursary places, please complete the application form by 19th September.

Places will be awarded to the people who demonstrate the most commitment to completing the course and putting it into action.

We will contact you after the closing date. There is no guarantee you will get a place. If we approve your application but have no more places, you will be offered a bursary on the next course (to be paid in advance in instalments).

Full refund if you cancel up to 8 September
75% refund or transferable to a later course if you cancel up to 22 September
Non-refundable from 23 September, but transferable to another parent/grandparent of your choice
NB no transfers after the course start date

Please email Roma at [email protected] and we'll get back to you as soon as we can. Or you can book a 20-minute call with Roma to chat through the issues you and your family are facing and get an idea of what next step might be most suited.