Banish meltdowns and drama


and get them to stop doing THAT THING so you can actually enjoy family life!

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Surely Parenting Shouldn't Be This Hard?

Bedtime just took 4 hours again and you’re still not convinced they’re asleep. Perhaps your child won’t eat anything but white starch. Or you have a preteen who’s getting lost in video games and snapchat. 

And why is it that your cherub behaves beautifully at school and transforms into a monster at home? You are the one facing tooth-brushing meltdowns, babysitter biting, visitations from the night banshee, sibling spitathons... 

Secretly, you wish you could go back to the job you hated rather than face another day with your kids

Over two years in and out of lockdown has done nothing to lighten the load - if anything, issues that were lurking in the background have come out into the spotlight. 

Whatever specific challenges you’re facing in your parenting, you are tired of it feeling so hard, worried how your kids are going to turn out if this carries on and you’re ready for someone - ANYONE - to lighten your load

“My little girl wouldn’t leave the house without us dragging her out kicking and screaming, it was controlling our lives and now she goes and plays outside.”

“Things are really different. I don’t feel so panicked and actually I can get through this. Things have really shifted for my eldest daughter and I think she feels more loved.”

Signs You Need This

  • You’re exhausted/burned out

  • You find yourself shouting more than you want

  • You find it hard to set boundaries then are suddenly too strict

  • Giving in and placating instead of dealing with the problem issue

  • Avoiding playing/spending time with kids or not enjoying the time you do spend

  • Numbing out/distracting with work, alcohol, internet

  • Feeling helpless in the face of your child’s behaviour or struggle

“The difference between me at the beginning of this course and me now is NIGHT and DAY!”

“This course has been unbelievable, life changing. I wish everyone would have the chance to do this”

How do you Wish Parenting Could Be?

It’s the simple things that make the biggest difference - like the fact that you get enough sleep. Or that you and your co-parent aren’t endlessly arguing about how to parent.

You even have energy left at the end of the day for self-care. Or to just enjoy being a family. Who knew?!

Imagine knowing that you can leave the house without someone crying. Or your kids brush their hair or do their homework without you even asking.

Better still, you have actual strategies in your back pocket for your kid’s trickiest behaviour. And they work!

“This course has has such a profound influence on me. I found it through desperation...  All the things that were wrong I now feel the opposite about.

It’s changed my view of the world. It’s built bridges... It’s enabled me to crack my little safe shell and start growing into the person I want to be.

It’s brought me to real, unconditional love and my daughter is blossoming – she’s singing and dancing and she tells me she loves me.”

The Hand In Hand Starter Class

This 10-week online class is a revolutionary, cutting-edge, progressive parenting paradigm designed to help you tap into the power of connection in profound ways.

You’ll see your parenting struggles through new eyes and restore your kids to be the sweet, smart, loving beings they really are.

Re-establish laughter and build an atmosphere of respect and co-operation in your family through a trauma-informed, therapeutic parenting approach that sits in line with current neuroscience.

Curious if this is for you? 

Book a free 20 minute call with Roma to bring your questions about joining the Total Parenting Reboot course

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Want to experience how Roma works 1-1? 

Join the next FREE Parenting Speed Coaching call for a taste of this approach and a chance to step into the "warm seat"

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What our Relieved Parents are Saying

Sarah L

“After almost 15 months E is finally able to put P down for naps and night without me! I don’t have words to express the feeling of freedom I got! She also sleeps through the night pretty consistently which is amazing too! We thought we would just have one child but in the last few weeks things were so amazing and we felt so empowered that we thought we would maybe have a second baby!”

Communications specialist, Montréal, Canada

Donka P

“I have been able to really let go and play with my children with such lightness and freedom - and also to work on issues with an amazing clarity of mind. You have helped me see glimpses of the best version of myself and I am so very grateful. I have been able to come to terms with many aspects of my past and our home is happier and more relaxed! You should be on the NHS prescription list!”

Finance Manager, Berkshire, UK

Sarah R

“The course has been amazing. All the other parenting courses I’ve done have been so cerebral and this was so simple and just made sense. My husband says he sees me relating differently to my children. I’m being more ME, more authentic and more respectful. I believe the more people who know about these tools and use them, the better for all our children and our world!”

Single-parent of 10 and 7yo, Bristol, UK

Haul your exhausted mama / papa ass to this course and you'll

  • Confidently know when and how to set clear, warm boundaries so you can genuinely enjoy your kids again.
  • Get the support you crave and deserve so that you are no longer alone with the intense and relentless responsibilities of being a parent.
  • Learn the magic words to say when your child is overwrought so that they are able to calm down and co-operate.
  • Understand how parenting impacts you so you can begin to shift those automatic parenting behaviours you really wish you didn’t have.
  • Discover that effective parenting can even be playful and fun so you can tackle the picky-eating / never-sleeping / rabid-biting / aggression / clinginess with confidence.
  • Set yourself up to be the best parent you can be so you can create a better life for your entire family.


Upcoming dates:

7 Oct - 9 Dec 2022

Friday mornings from 9.15am - 11.30am UK time


Bookings Close

at midnight on 3rd October

What You Get

  • Online Self-study Videos: with lifetime access
  • 6 Modules: presented and explored over the 10-week programme, including an Orientation week, 2 Integration weeks to catch up or go deeper, and a Closing & Celebration week
  • 10 weekly Huddles: Group Q&A Calls on Zoom hosted by Roma & team
  • Weekly Parent Pod calls from Week 2: your small group of 6, hosted by Roma or one of her skilled facilitators, on Zoom for individual support
  • Online community: other parents like you: the Parent Sanctuary
  • AND...
  • Support for Dads: we LOVE supporting Dads and warmly invite men to join the course. There will be a Weekly Pod run by a Dad and we will put all the Dads in this group. (If we have registrations from 6 men it will be a dedicated Dad Pod, otherwise it will be a mixed Pod)

What is a Total Parenting Reboot worth to you?

This course can break the mould of your parenting programming, and the benefits will reach far and wide, way beyond your immediate family and the 10-week time scale of the course.

What would resolving your gnarliest parenting nightmares be worth?

It’s hard to put a value on that - but here are some ways to think of it:

  • £75 per week for 10 weeks
  • 8-10 sessions of Play Therapy
  • 2-3 sessions of Family Therapy
  • a camping holiday in Cornwall

We consider this course to be a significant investment in the wellbeing and functionality of your whole family and want to make it accessible to everyone.

That's why we're offering 2 tiers of pricing. You self-select the price you pay.

And if both these prices are beyond your means, you can apply for a Bursary place. There are a limited number available each time we run this course. UPDATE: Bursary applications are now closed for the October 2022 course. They will re-open for the next round.

Please read the FAQ below on 'How does the pricing work?'

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Join at a reduced rate to share this journey in joined-up parenting ~
as parents of the same children or one household.

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See FAQ below 'What if my partner wants to / doesn't want to join'

Pay It Forward 

Support a struggling mama or papa to access these tools to make a really big difference in their family's life

Donate £50 to the Bursary Fund

I get it: you’re bombarded


So many options.

What do you choose?

Play therapy, martial arts, child psychotherapist, a CAMHS referral? How can you know what will actually work for your family?

Can a 10-week course possibly solve EVERYTHING?!


I’m so confident that I can help you that I offer an

100% Moneyback Guarantee


You need to attend all the calls, watch the videos and do the homework. If you give everything we throw at you a fair go and you HAVEN’T made noticeable progress I’ll happily give you a 100% refund.

In five years, only one person has asked.

Do you have questions for Roma? 

Book a free 20 minute call with Roma to bring your questions about joining the Total Parenting Reboot course

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Roma's Story

In this video I speak about how isolated, desperate and ashamed I felt with a violent, self-harming and constantly triggered and anxious young child.

I was doing my best to hold it together through willpower but became so stressed I started losing it at my child. And where I needed extra understanding and support from family and friends I experienced judgment and avoidance.

Nothing was helping. Not paediatricians, not clearing geopathic stress and nothing in between! Scouring the internet for answers, I found Hand In Hand and began the journey towards reclaiming my child and our lives.

My mission is to share this with other struggling parents. There IS hope. Life can be wonderful again!

More about Roma

1-min Overview of the course

Here's what we'll do...

The Huddle

Group Q&A Calls

This is where we gather on a live call to integrate the insights experientially in a large group and in smaller pods with one or two other parents just like you. There’s something super powerful about realising you are not alone with any of this: when you get to ask your burning questions at the end you’ll be amazed how many others share the same issues. Fridays @ 9.15am (UK) for 60 mins

The Parent Pod

Small Group Support Calls

You probably don’t realise it but this is what you’ve been waiting for: an experienced facilitator (Roma or one of her team) giving you individual attention for your particular family’s issues and 6 pairs of kind ears ready to listen to your fears, frustrations and concerns. You’re gonna wonder how you ever survived life without this kind of magic. (Read more in the FAQ below, 'How do Parent Pods work?') 
Fridays @ 10.30am (UK) - 60 mins. The Parent Pods follow on after the Huddle, with time for a cuppa in between

The Skinny

Online Self-Study Videos

Get ready to scrape your jaw off the floor (along with the jam and toast) as the “Aha!” moments from the Founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, Patty Wipfler land thick and fast. You’re gonna get so hooked on this lady’s illuminating videos, you’ll be watching it on the loo or while washing up. You’ll find the time, we promise. Approx 70 mins per week

The Family Lab

Learning on the Job

Yep, you’ll be experimenting with new practical tools from day one. You’re gonna try stuff out and come back and tell us what worked (Hallelujah!) and get tips and tweaks if it didn’t go quite to plan. You’ll remember how to play and have a lot of fun - and realise that this is how parenting can be. For keeps! Approx 30 mins per week

The Parent Sanctuary

Private Online Community

You get access to the community of parents who are also taking this course. This will be hosted in a private Facebook group. Apart from other things, this is where you get to hang out and chat, probably make lifelong friends and, best of all, share your wins!

What does the course actually look like? 

Hear from Roma and some of the relieved and delighted parents who have take this course

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The Practising Midwife
Juno Magazine
The Embodiment Conference
The Arrigo Programme
Huffington Post
Elephant Journal
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